(Idinéia Romitti - http://idineia.blogspot.com)
Who has never observed a couple, sitting in the city square in an involving cuddling? Today people are so young and are already in love in their 14 years; they are in love and making promises.
What do they understand by love? They manipulate each other imposing restrictions on their seeing other friends; not speaking with no one else from the opposite sex, and they put each other under surveillance, saying it is all for love. What kind of love? That is the question I make.
It is so beautiful to love and being loved! The youngster date each other, they have fun and an intense social and intimate life. They project themselves on one another, demanding fidelity and watching each other's movements.
There are so many restrictions and obligations. Is that Love? Apparently, it is so fascinating, like a mix of love, possession and hatred.
Nevertheless, passion is not love; it is, though, a psychological disease. Loving and being in relationships is good in all ages. The matured and more experienced couples love each other, knowing what to expect and taking risks on their adventures.
Loving is a marvelous thing! In the relationships, there are always changes of behavior and, very often, jealousy; the possession over the other is always envisaged, and they feel assured by the idea that it is all for the sake of love. However, what is love? What is to be in a relationship with someone? How can love signify the possession of the other? What about the total surveillance, reflecting the lack of confidence and the fear to love?
We are little apprentices in the art of love! We love the other, because deep inside there is one peace of ourselves, our Me! I love part of Me that is in You!
Love is beautiful! Love in the relationships will teach us how to be better, purer... It is through relationships that we meet the opportunity to develop our human character in a successful way. What we search in each other is Love and Acceptance from the the other! Those who love never incarcerate the loved ones... they set them free!
He trusts himself, he respects himself and the loved one! He knows that the other, like him, is free to come and go, and this contributes to a pure, truly and spontaneous love. Thus the love they carry to each other will always grow and involve them both, more and more.
The relationships have the power to bring about the best and the worst of what we hold inside. It is in a relationship that we will measure the power of antagonism in ourselves; we realize what we are really inside.
Nevertheless, it also presents the grand opportunity to make a self-analysis and correct our imperfections; knowing the origins and cause of our self oppositions.
We have,at these moments, conditions of straightening up ourselves, for we always detect traumas and rooted experiences from our past, which will ultimately reveal the way we have been educated and prepared to life.
Whatever it is the case, we relearn how to trust ourselves and in the others and feel much secure and confident in the mutual respect.
I do not believe that one half joins the other half, but I belief that one whole joins the other whole.
Relationships take us to the road of self-knowledge and love! Let's keep in relationship with ourselves first, through acceptance and forgiveness of what we really are, and let's try to improve ourselves. I love myself and I accept the way I really am! Loving is worthwhile! So, keep yourselves in constant relationships, but bear in mind that the purpose is to MEET YOURSELF and KNOW YOURSELF. The fundamental purpose in life is to know WHO WE ARE , FROM WHERE WE COME AND TO WHERE WE ARE GOING?
It is time we knew ourselves in the first place, so that we can be taken as a WHOLE. Only then, we will be able to identify with one another, for being identical in essence – JUST ONE BEING, THE RATIONAL BEING!
However, in order to know to achieve all this Equilibrium, it is mandatory that we study the RATIONAL CULTURE BOOKS, which is a culture of our natural state of being Rational. There we will find TRUE HAPPINESS through the DEVELOPMENT OF THE REASONING.
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